On my personal blog I recently wrote about the danger of comparing ourselves to others. Comparison is, as they say, the death of joy, and nothing positive comes out of coveting what others have, especially if those ‘others’ are people close to us.
The same can be said for holding onto the past – something I have been thinking about a lot this week. Seven years ago someone broke my heart. It took a long time to piece it back together again but, thanks to the unswerving support of my friends and family and the unconditional love and understanding of someone who has made me see what true love really is, I am now stronger and happier than I have ever been.
In recognition of this, and to prove to myself that I am finally ready to let go of the past, I have this week taken the decision to unfriend a number of people from my ‘old’ life on Facebook.
It sounds silly, I know, but I didn’t take this decision lightly. Granted, I was no longer in regular contact with most of these people – it had, understandably, faded with time – but the thin thread that still bound us together was nonetheless there, the elephant in my social media room.
These people were once like family to me and so it’s only natural I still care for them and miss them. But what I’ve finally come to realise is that if you’re not careful your past can hold you back without you even realising it. Sometimes the best thing to do is cut ties and move on, no matter how painful or sad that might be. As the saying goes, people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Instead of mourning them when they go, far better to feel glad they crossed your path at all, and look to the future with hope in your heart.